Women are totally different than men when comes to sex. This difference derives from the fact that although men can reproduce until the day they die, women cannot. Therefore, women’s desire for sex diminishes as she gets older. Although many will not admit it, once a woman perceives that there is no reason for her to have sex, because she is going thorough menopause or has just had a child, her desire dies too. It has nothing to do with her partner. She wouldn’t fuck a playgirl centerfold. She just doesn’t care.
In addition, women have a tendency to wrap their sensuality in how they see themselves physically. Men don’t care how they look. A man is horny, even if he hasn’t taken a bath in months. It probably turns him on even more! Women do not feel sexual, unless they feel good about the way they look. So, if you have a partner that has just had a kid or has gotten fatter & doesn’t feel she is sexy, you can pretty much forget it.
How do you change it? It will take a long time; however, you have to make her believe she is very special, either through romancing her or giving her compliments about her body. Now, don’t lay it on too thick. She will catch on.
My friend, Doug, said he believed many woman enjoyed sex when they had passed child bearing age, because they believed there were less consequences. I love older women. If you find one of this philosophy, please send her my way!
July 30, 2006 at 2:28 am
Interesting perspective. I have known many women who have gone through menopause who feel more juicy and alive than ever…and much more horny. I don’t think that drive necessarily has to diminish. I do hear that women who age get more particular in who and what they want, but I think this comes with knowing oneself (at least in the women I know).
Not sure why it waxes or wanes with each individual..probably something to do with hormones, but I am approaching 50 this week and I intend to be one of the women who just gets more and more sexy with age.